The holiday season is supposed to be a time when families enjoy each other’s company, but in divorced families, scheduling can make a time that should be fun stressful, and overwhelming.
Although holiday visitation arrangements are typically part of the final divorce decree, certain details need to be worked out each year. How can you make a holiday visitation schedule enjoyable for all?
Prioritize
Begin by making a list of events that you feel you absolutely must attend with the children. Before speaking with your ex, know what is really important to you and what things you may be able to bend on. Prioritizing in advance helps to prevent discussions from turning into battles.
Be Flexible
The goal is to come to an agreement that will satisfy everyone (as much as possible) avoid conflicts, and make the holidays pleasant for everyone. Having a plan that is flexible will make it easier for everyone, especially the children.
Consider the Wishes of the Children
Depending on the ages of your children, they may be able to give you valuable insight on how they would like to spend the holidays. Take some time to find out what is most important to them and what they want to do. You will likely not be able to do what you did before the divorce, but there’s no time like the present to begin creating new traditions.
Keep an Open Mind
Divorce is hard on everyone – make sure you take this into consideration before you argue with your ex about the holiday visitation schedule. Take a moment to put yourself in his shoes, as well as those of your children, so you can approach the topic from more than just your perspective.
An effective family law attorney can be a huge asset during visitation conflicts. Tracy Lyson is an experienced family law attorney who can help. Call 701-235-8000 or 877-235-8002 to get the support you need today.
